THE BRUDERHOF'S
"FIRST LAW OF SANNERZ"
A Good
Idea Unbalanced
By
Other Good Ideas
Copyright 2004 © by Barnabas D. Johnson
2005 Note: This essay was prepared for
presentation by Ruth Lambach at the 31st annual
conference of
the Communal Studies Association, held at
Pittsfield, Massachusetts, September 30 to
October 2, 2004.[1]
2008 Note: The Bruderhof is now called Church Communities International.
***
The Bruderhof, a "utopian
society" founded in 1920, asserts that it is governed by a no-gossip rule which it
calls (in English) "the First Law of Sannerz." In the original German, it was
titled "Law of Sannerz — Open Word of Love."[2]
Note, however, that it was (and remains) the first and only such law.
Written by Eberhard Arnold five years after the founding of the Bruderhof, in 1925, our only written rule has proved easier to post than to practice. Yet without it, our movement would have collapsed long ago. For as Arnold writes, without openness and honesty there can be no loyalty, and thus no real community.
There is no law but love. Love is joy in others. What, then, is anger at them? Words of love convey the joy we have in the presence of our brothers and sister. It is out of the question to speak about another person in a spirit of irritation or vexation.
There must never be talk, either in open remarks or by insinuation, against any brother or sister, or against their individual characteristics — and under no circumstances behind their back. Gossiping in one's family is no exception. Without this rule of silence there can be no loyalty and hence no community. Direct address is the only way possible. It is a service we owe anyone whose weaknesses cause a negative reaction in us.
An honest word spoken openly and directly deepens freindship and will not be resented. Only when two people do not come to an agreement quickly is it necessary to draw in a third person whom both of them trust. In this way they can be led to a solution that unites them in the highest and deepest levels.
Hang this reminder at your place of work, where it will always be before your eyes. EA, 1925
***
I was born in the Bruderhof, but was
expelled at age 14 in 1958. Ex-members[3]
of my generation recall that this no-gossip rule was something we "children of the
Bruderhof"[4]
absorbed by osmosis, as part of our general acculturation. We never saw the text,
as such, during our upbringing. However, some of us, myself included, vaguely recall
learning that our no-gossip rule had a name, "the First Law of Sannerz"; others
do not recall this. Perhaps different hofs varied slightly on how this law was
inculcated. Following the "Great Crisis" of 1959-61,[5]
during which over a third[6]
of the Bruderhof (adults and children) were expelled, this rule became text-dependent. I
recall seeing it — as presented above — prominently displayed during my visit to
a Bruderhof in Connecticut around 1968. I also recall being surprised at how much the
Bruderhof had changed. Most significant, it now had an "Elder" — a term I'd
never known as a lad. This leader, the founder's second son, who died in 1982, is now
venerated by the Bruderhof in ways that many ex-members consider historically
inappropriate and utterly insulting to the victims of his zeal.
By most reliable accounts, this leader
precipitated the Great Crisis in a power struggle with his siblings and in-laws, and most
of those who were expelled as a consequence have never come to terms with his (in their
view) brutal indifference to the suffering that he and his henchmen[7]
caused. He always struck me as being power-hungry, spiritually-overwrought, and in
delicate mental health.[8]
The "youth sub-culture" I grew up with — especially young men — feared
his explosive temper. My contemporaries and I witnessed incidents when he was almost
frothing at the mouth with fury. Regrettably, we were often unkind to his son, whom we
called Tehdel (Tadpole) and considered
a tattle-tale and mildly retarded. We never thought he would amount to much. I shall
discuss these two men further in due course.
By the late 1960s and early 1970s my
interest in this communal experiment was primarily scholarly, stemming from my
comparative-law research on systems of governance, both primitive and advanced. My
interest in the Bruderhof's no-gossip rule was triggered by my study of cybernetics[9]
— a theory regarding "self-corrective processes" undergirding the
governance of mechanical, biological, intellectual, and societal systems. I was
particularly impressed by Gregory Bateson's book, Steps to an Ecology of Mind (1972),
which examined problems associated with clogged or tangled "feedback processes"
— including individual and social pathologies of a kind which, I then suspected and
am now convinced, bedevil the Bruderhof. In pondering all this, I came to believe that the
First Law of Sannerz — as interpreted and applied — propped up a flawed system
of governance by insulating leaders from accurate membership feedback and protecting them
from organized membership opposition. In short, this rule — which on its face seems
benign, indeed commendable — supported an increasingly unaccountable leadership
which, starting in the late 1950s, was becoming what many ex-members believe it has now
become: an abusive dictatorship.
During my childhood, I learned that our
no-gossip rule meant the following: If I had a criticism of somebody, I should bring the
matter to that person's attention, one-on-one, rather than discussing it with others.
Discussing problems "behind the back" of the person(s) one was criticizing was
considered highly improper. Only when "direct address" failed was it proper
(indeed necessary) for the disputants to bring in a "third party" to help
resolve matters.[10]
The main problem with this rule is that
it is the "First Law"
yet there is no Second, let alone Third,
thereby allowing a harmonic convergence of "balanced rules" which recognize that
sometimes it is good, indeed essential, for members to pool their observations and
insights[11]
— to "gossip" — especially about their leaders: to determine
whether, and if so when and how, to speak truth to power, powerfully, and thereby
to confront arrogant and erring leaders effectively.
As one of my childhood friends put it
succinctly during a 1991 conference of ex-members: "We think about others
behind their backs, so why can't we think together about others behind their
backs?" This is the crux of the matter. And, in my view, it goes very deep,
implicating the essence of what it means to be Homo sapiens, fully human: a being
who generates and shares information and wisdom and meaningful options, etc., thereby
converting wisdom and choice into will and action in healthy colleagueship —
dare I say "community"? — with others. A community without such
wisdom-pooling colleagueship is a bird caught in a crazy-mirror vacuum-chamber: it cannot
fly, and it would not know where to go if it could.
The "gossip" (godsyb)
was in ancient times a "god-relative" who bore a special responsibility towards
his or her "syb"; this responsibility was apparently taken on
voluntarily, gossips being "sponsors" and helpers
as needed. Apparently,
unlike god-parents, god-siblings were drawn from ones age group and gender; they were
sand-pit play-mates; they were best buddies, true friends (friends in need, the best
indeed). Thus, if the village was awakened night after night because Joseph and Mary were
screaming at each other, their friends and neighbors and gossips would naturally discuss
this troubling fact, trying to figure out whether, and if so when and how, to help Joseph
and Mary resolve their problems and thereby restore the peace of the night.
True, Henry might (without consulting
others) call Joseph aside for a little chat, one-on-one, and that course (a) might be
good, and (b) would accord with the Bruderhof's First Law. But, on the other hand, Henry
and Tom might discuss the problem together first, and then discuss it with their wives,
and then ask James and his sister for their input, before all decide to invite Mary and
Joseph over for beer and a neighborly talk tonight, and (arguably, given the value of
neighborly consultations, otherwise called "gossip") that course (a) might be
even better, but (b) would violate the
Bruderhof's First Law. Life is complicated, human relationships are deeply textured, and
"talking behind the back" can constitute a conspiracy against but can also constitute a cooperation for
in this case, for the health of the village, which depends on Joseph and Mary to
pull their weight, etc., and also depends on everybody getting a good night's rest.
Put differently, there is good gossip
and bad gossip, just as there is good cooperation and bad cooperation. Wisdom lies in
balanced judgment, in the wise equipoise of "love" and "law" and other
precious values. In the Bruderhof, however, "love" and "law" are seen
as Manichean opposites: never the twain shall meet, let alone intertwine. As a
consequence, the "loving way" is decreed by a leader who is not bounded by the
"lawful way"; he is theologically and factually unaccountable (except to
"God" as he interprets same), and this leader can therefore dispense unequal
justice, unchecked whim, and sheer favoritism, as the spirit (he would say
"Spirit") moves him. This is dysfunctional.
The Elder is apparently empowered to
expel any member for good cause, bad cause, or no cause.[12]
As members have no private property, no savings, no resumes, no references, and often no
knowledge of the "outside world" (as members call it), they are reluctant to
criticize the Elder one-on-one because, face it, he always wins such face-offs. Yet
if two or three gather together to discuss their errant Elder, and then perhaps discuss
and strategize with another ten or even hundreds before confronting the Maximum Leader,
what can happen? He can cut off the first speaker in mid-sentence and toss him out for
having violated the First Law! There is no Second Law. Is there a second speaker?
As noted, as a lad I never saw a formal
text associated with "the First Law of Sannerz"; children learned this no-gossip
rule by osmosis until around 1960. Indeed, an ex-member (recently deceased) who was
once a "Servant of the Word" or minister, was adamant that he had never even
heard the term "Law of Sannerz" (or "First Law of Sannerz") until
after the Great Crisis. I find this claim hard to believe, as his wife was a Bruderhof
child in the late 1920s when this no-gossip rule was almost certainly known — and
named — and displayed (in German). But the fact that I cannot find this claim impossible
to believe speaks volumes: the First Law clearly took on a new significance —
becoming almost the Eleventh Commandment — following the Great Crisis. As we shall
see, whether or not the First Law was born out
of the first crisis of 1922, it most certainly was elevated out of the Great Crisis of 1959-61, and (many
ex-members believe) the First Law's implementation since then has been focused on
averting
crises or, more precisely, protecting the dictatorship from successful challenges.[13]
When I visited a Bruderhof in
Pennsylvania for several weeks in 1973, my main purpose was to probe Bruderhof governance.
By then I had read everything I could find by and about the Bruderhof, and I was therefore
not surprised to see the First Law displayed in living rooms and work places throughout
the hof. And I knew this accorded with the explicit instructions of the founder, Eberhard
Arnold (hereinafter, "Eberhard"). The fact that during my childhood I had only
learned this rule by osmosis was offered by members in 1973 as evidence that the
Bruderhof I had grown up in had degenerated following Eberhard's death in 1935.
Indeed, I was told, the Great Crisis — which I had long considered a calamity —
was in fact a "rebirth" during which the founder's second son, Heini,[14]
had wrestled the community back to its original, Christ-centered foundations.
Everybody seems to agree that Heini
brought about major changes, starting around 1956-57, which precipitated (a) many
expulsions or departures, (b) closing of all Paraguayan hofs and the main British hof, (c)
major leadership upheavals, (d) elevation of the First Law of Sannerz, explicitly thus
named, to its current textual (as distinct from "osmosis") form, and (e) elevation of Heini to the new position of
Elder. Members and ex-members disagree, naturally, as to whether these changes were good.
Members' adulation for their beloved "Opa Heini" balance evenly, it appears,
with ex-members' bafflement that "history" seems thus far to be getting things
so absurdly wrong. To ex-members, Bruderhof "histories" are insulting
idealizations — hagiographies — that raise up Heini by trampling upon his
victims.[15]
Such ex-member bafflement pales,
however, in comparison to the bemused amazement many express that Heini's son Christoph,
who replaced his father as Elder following Heini's death in 1982, seems to have become
something of a hot item, having apparently written numerous books — one of which is
reportedly referenced favorably in President Clinton's autobiography. Christoph's
ex-member contemporaries (myself included) have long felt confident in predicting that
Christoph would make an awful mess of things; indeed, we think he has; but, to date, on
member-waxed wings, he rises undaunted by our doubts, flying ever higher, ever more
spectacularly, now as "Senior Pastor" (another term we never knew in the
Bruderhof of long ago).
So, how does all this relate to the
First Law of Sannerz?
About a decade ago, another of
Eberhard's grandsons, now an ex-member, suggested a very different purpose
undergirding the First Law and Heini's elevation of it. According to this account, the
Bruderhof, which started in Germany in a rented "guest-house" called Sannerz[16]
in 1920, experienced its first crisis in 1922 when participants rebelled against Eberhard
while he and his wife were vacationing in Holland.[17]
He returned, a showdown ensued, the "plotters" departed, and only a small core
of mostly Eberhard's immediate family remained. According to this account, the First Law
was the founder's means of ensuring against any repetition of such "disloyalty"
by forbidding others from discussing him and his leadership behind his back. That is, the
First Law was (according to this grandson) intended to
protect Eberhard from members' pooling of information, sharing of insights, comparing of
grievances, and strategizing on remedies. This interpretation is arguably buttressed by
the (otherwise somewhat obscure) phrase in the First Law: "Without this rule of
silence there can be no loyalty and thus no community."
Now, upon examining this matter, I have
come (on balance) to doubt this grandson's explanation. I do not believe, all things
considered, that this was the First Law's original purpose. Yet I have become
convinced that this was its result — and possibly, indeed quite probably, was
also Heini's purpose in "resurrecting" and elevating the First Law as
part of his 1961-63 effort to consolidate his power after he had wrested control of
the Bruderhof from his brothers, his brothers-in-law, and other Bruderhof leaders,
including those non-Germans who in the 1930s were instrumental in "rescuing" the
German members and helping them relocate first to England and then, after World War II
started, to Paraguay.
This view of matters will doubtless be
contested by the Bruderhof, for which Eberhard and Heini and Christoph have attained
saintly, even semi-divine, status. So be it. Past is prologue. Bruderhof members are
indeed "loyal" to a fault. Their loyalty to their trinity has trumped their
capacity for loyalty to that "true openness" which "true community"
implies. In this connection, I recall the name their First Law first had: "Law of
Sannerz — Open Word of Love." The Bruderhof's interpretation of this
"law" has contributed mightily, I believe, to creation of a closed society
in which an "open word" — indeed, a simple friendship[18]
— among ordinary members is often dangerous. Arguably, however, the Bruderhof is
correct in asserting, in its preface to the First Law (as interpreted and enforced by its
leaders), that "without it, our movement would have collapsed long ago."
The question asks itself: Would the "collapse" of this dysfunctional society be
a bad thing?
I have devoted my professional life to
understanding and advancing Open Society values, including freedom of expression and
association, periodic elections for choosing accountable governments, and equal justice
under history-illuminated law. Working for the past 15 years on law reform and
legal-education reform in the former Soviet Union, I have come to treasure the lessons of
history — true history, warts and all, told with fidelity. I shall leave hagiography
to others. It is worthless for purposes of building healthy, accountable governments that
cultivate and harvest "self-wisdom" — the good, the bad, the ugly, the
true, and hence also the transforming.
As modern Russia shows, merely turning away
from something bad is not enough; there has to be something better to turn towards.
And that is complicated because "the good society" is less a noun than a verb.
It is not a "plateau of perfection" ever reached, it is a process of
reaching, of becoming, of coevolving. It is — to the extent that words can suffice
— a constitutional democracy, a learning organism, an activity, a gerund.
Balancing majority rule with minority
rights, balancing individual opportunity with equal justice, balancing, ever balancing
it seems to me that an evolution-affirming good society "reveals itself
best" as it becomes a self-rediscovering, self-governing experiment in which
ordinary people — no less than extraordinary people — can speak truth to power, powerfully.
A true utopia is never finished, is
always young. It is interesting, filled with good gossip. It is not what the Bruderhof has
become. The Bruderhof I grew up in might have had the potential of becoming truly
interesting. Now it is merely a boring example of a good idea unbalanced by other good
ideas. That is a terrible idea!
The worst enemy of democracy is a lousy
"conception" of it which, when tried, fails, thereby causing people to give up
on "democracy" without having ever tried a competent conception of it. The same
might be said of any "utopian society" conception.
To those who would improve our world, I would propose that you balance "love" with "law" — focused on doing justice, focused on enhancing Open Society values, and focused on learning from history told with unvarnished fidelity.
***
[1] This essay was prepared for presentation by Ruth Lambach at the 31st annual conference of the Communal Studies Association, held at Pittsfield, Massachusetts, September 30 to October 2, 2004.
The title of that presentation was: "'Healthy Gossip' and Democratic Governance." I have made changes since, namely, I have added internal hotlinks and have extended several footnotes.
I have written extensively about the Bruderhof over the years, and plan to write more. The Bruderhof has sued several critics, thereby silencing many more. As a lawyer, I have been involved (mostly behind the scenes) in defending against suits and threats that I am convinced have been without just cause. The ever-present threats and retaliations have had a chilling effect on critics and potential critics, and I am not immune from fear in this regard.
See http://www.communalstudies.info/abstracts.shtml.
2008 Note: My 1992 essay honoring Miriam Brailey's courageous stand against Bruderhof despotism is available here. (Go back)
[2] In German, Gesetz von Sannerz — Offenes Wort der Liebe. I think the English translation of this document is faithful to the original German.
[3]
By "ex-members" I refer to those who left after becoming full, baptized members,
as well as to those who grew up as "children of the Bruderhof" — whether or
not they underwent baptism prior to their departure. Almost all such ex-members were
expelled, essentially penniless, following many years (often their entire lives) within
Bruderhofs in Germany, England, Paraguay, the United States, and elsewhere. In my case, I
was born in the Primavera Bruderhof in Paraguay in 1943, lived during 1947-55 in the
Wheathill Bruderhof in England, and emigrated to the U.S. in 1955, where I lived on three
U.S. "hofs" before my expulsion. My parents and siblings were expelled in 1961.
Following my father's death in 1979, my mother eventually returned to the Bruderhof
(Darvell, England) where she spent her final five years until her death in 1991. My only
close relative in the Bruderhof is my mother's twin sister, now 91 years old.
[2006 Note: She died on April 21, 2006, aged 93.] Most
ex-members have relatives in various hofs. Ex-members are often reluctant to criticize the
Bruderhof, partly because they do not want to lose contact with family members who are in
the Bruderhof. For example, some ex-members have had no contact with aged parents for many
years. Also, in 1997 the Bruderhof brought a $15 million defamation suit against critics
(ordinary members remain unaware of this fact, apparently); as a lawyer, I helped to
formulate the defense; the suit was later dropped. Many ex-members fear the Bruderhof's
vengeance. This is a huge subject which this essay can only touch upon.
[4]
Several ex-members were sued a decade ago by the Bruderhof for calling their support-group
"Children of the Bruderhof"; the upshot was a consent decree in which they
agreed not to use this name. I am not bound by that decree. Indeed, I tend to doubt it
could withstand an attack based on constitutional grounds. In any event, however, I here
use the phrase "children of the Bruderhof" merely as a descriptive one, denoting
"ex-members" (see Footnote 3) who grew up on various hofs of the Bruderhof.
[5]
There is much difficulty dating this crisis. It is fair to say that from around 1956 to
around 1963 the Bruderhof underwent fundamental changes, and that these were concentrated
around 1959-61. The leader who initiated these changes became "Elder" in 1962,
I'm told. Prior to this, the office of Elder did not exist.
[6]
By some accounts, more than a third were expelled. Thus,
Roger
Allain, in his book, The Community That Failed (1992), asserted: Eleven
Bruderhof communities, counting over fifteen hundred people in five different countries,
were reduced to three with five or six hundred people living in a pietistic ivory tower in
the U.S. (at p. 322).
[7]
In the late 1980s, the chief henchman (by his own account) wept bitterly as he begged my
forgiveness for his abusive treatment of my family during 1959-61, but he insisted that his venerated
Elder (as he would later be called) was blameless during the Great Crisis. The
Bruderhof's own "official history" keeps changing, but at various times it
has taught that this man did not venerate that leader and, starting around
1959, was "using" him to oust inner-circle rivals. In any event, in the late
1980s I told
this disgraced henchman that my focus was on a system of governance that drove
top leaders insane by depriving them of anything but yes-man sycophancy. He disagreed,
saying that he personally was to blame for those Great-Crisis excesses, not his beloved
leader. I never saw a man more convinced of his own evil. His conduct during the Great
Crisis was indeed evil. But in my considered opinion his worst offence was that, until he
tried to overthrow this leader some years later, he was seen by others,
including that leader, as a loyal yes-man and (in a manner of speaking) hatchet-man.
That leader would never have been crowned Elder in 1962 if he had not
surrounded himself by such first-tier sycophants and emissaries. [Since this
paper was delivered in 2004, I have seen much startling evidence that the
Bruderhof's "official history" is once again undergoing a re-writing,
sliding ever further from truth.]
[8]
According to what I deem reliable accounts, his father (the Bruderhof's founder)
instructed, apparently in contemplation of his death in 1935, that this son should never
be burdened with Bruderhof leadership, citing his delicate mental and emotional makeup. I
am told that there is (or was) documentary proof of this in Bruderhof archives. Needless
to say, on this and so many other matters one must rely on accounts by ex-members who, in
many cases, are no longer living. My father, E. Guy Johnson (1913-1979), served until
around 1956 as the Bruderhof's lawyer; he was one of the founders of the Woodcrest
Bruderhof in 1954, which later became the chief hof (the Elder's residence). My father's
views on matters, including which members' and ex-members' accounts of documents and
events were (are) reliable, constitute only one of many elements of my own views on these
matters. In fact, my father listened intently yet said little during all
discussions of these matters that I participated in. Modern
internet-mediated "round-robins" among ex-members have unearthed many
documents and recollections of great value. There is ongoing research, aided by continuing "departures" from the
Bruderhof. One must trust that truth will continue to emerge. More articles and books will
be added to what is already a considerable literature.
[9]
I use "cybernetics" in its broadest sense, originating with the ancient Greek
"kubernetes" — from which we also get the word
"governance" (and its variants). Socrates said we should know ourselves well so
that we might govern ourselves wisely. Modern cyberneticians focus on understanding and
"advocating" coevolving, feedback-dependent, significance-generating systems of
control, of governance, of self-governance, and of socio-political reconceptualization and
transformation. Thus, for example, a "system of governance" without feedback
(including a free press) is a contradiction in terms, akin to a fish without water.
[10] A corollary of this rule was that when members found themselves disagreeing, they should do so quietly, not loudly, not "wholesaling" their problem in ways that made others aware of it. This essay cannot detail all elements of this rule; it confines itself to the most problematic. A major issue not detailed here is that, arguably, the leader who "elevated" this First Law was himself the worst violator. According to apparently-reliable accounts, for example, he often discussed adult-members' faults with his own children present. And many ex-members (myself included) recall occasions when his own disagreements with others were "wholesaled" in a loud and public manner. In recent years, moreover, "public humiliation" of full members — apparently in the presence of children and non-members — is said to have become fairly common. I'm told that there are (or were) tape recordings evidencing such public humiliations. Indeed, a major theme not touched on in this essay is the way in which "church discipline" has become increasingly abusive and psychologically damaging. This subject is likely to be examined in future scholarly writings, I believe. According to one account, a previous scholarly treatment touching on this topic was, in effect, "withdrawn" under Bruderhof pressure. Suffice it to say that it is exceedingly difficult to sort among truths, half-truths, differing perceptions, and sheer (often self-serving) fictions. I have attempted in this essay to offer what I consider to be a fair and accurate account of matters regarding which there are deeply-held disagreements. In my view, the Bruderhof has repeatedly frustrated efforts aimed at genuine truth-seeking — and efforts at reconciliation based thereon — but, in fairness, the Bruderhof also appears to have been acting on the advice of legal counsel which (I am inclined to conclude) advised against admissions of past abuses for fear of opening floodgates of litigation initiated by those who might assert their victimization, etc.
[11]
The Society of Friends, or Quakers, have a (mostly tacit) "direct address" rule which is far
more sophisticated, as interpreted and applied, and is nested within many other
"rules" considered when Quakers discuss their "queries" in monthly,
quarterly, and yearly "meetings for business"; such "jurisprudence"
was taught as a required course at Olney Friends School in Barnesville, Ohio, when I
attended in 1958-61.
[12] According to reliable sources, the Bruderhof's "constitution" apparently gives the Elder or "Senior Pastor" (as he is now called) unrestricted power to oust any member, whereas it takes a vote of all full members (including, apparently, the Elder's wife) to oust the Elder. This feature may have changed. There is some evidence of recent upheavals that might have resulted in modifications of this rule. While the Senior Pastor appears to be in full, effective control, his current status is not entirely clear.
[13]
There have been several "plots" over the past four decades, the
"plotters" having (apparently) been crushed.
[14]
He was always called "Heini" when alive; later, the Bruderhof called him
"Heinrich"; a new hagiographic treatment apparently refers to him as
"Heiner" (see next footnote). This essay will use the name that Heini was
universally known by among all who vividly recall him, recalling also how instrumental he
was in their lives — for good or ill, depending on strongly-conflicting perspectives.
[15] For example, Peter Mommsen's book, Homage to a Broken Man (2004), has enraged several ex-members. According to them, it idolizes Heini (now called "Heiner") and demonizes those who opposed him. I have not read this book.
2006 Note: I have since read Mommsen's book. Here are my further thoughts:
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[16]
The Bruderhof recently purchased this "historic" property, which it has
apparently turned into a sort of Bruderhof museum and conference center.
[17]
He was also fundraising. This essay can only summarize historical highlights.
Unfortunately, as already suggested, all the Bruderhof's own "histories" are
essentially hagiography and most unreliable — according to my personal recollections
and, far more significant, the recollections of many others. Some ex-members have made
extensive efforts to obtain and preserve the recollections of now-deseased members and
ex-members. More such materials will be published in due course. As already noted
(Footnote 3), the Bruderhof has sued its critics. If the 1997 suit had come to trial, the
defense would have asked Bruderhof leaders tough questions under oath; this would
doubtless have unearthed significant historical materials. Notwithstanding, criticism of
the Bruderhof is a frightening prospect for many, especially those who wish to maintain
contact with family members still within the various hofs.
[18] My father told me he rediscovered the pleasures — and importance — of "simple friendship" after being expelled from the Bruderhof. Many ex-members have made similar observations. I find this especially interesting in light of many accounts from Soviet times, when truly close, long-term, candid friendships flourished. A friend with whom one could be truly candid, who had not (over years or decades) turned one in to the KGB for being disloyal to the USSR, was especially precious. In successfully curbing such true friendship, the Bruderhof seems to have succeeded in becoming more totalitarian than the USSR.
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